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Swinger and Lifestyle Books
When we speak of recreational sex - of sex as play - people sometimes accuse us of being frivolous. In actuality, play is a serious and meaningful activity, even more serious and meaningful than work. After all, work is merely a way of getting what you want, a means to an end. Play is the end. Play is the very thing we want. Since we all work so that we may gain the opportunity to play (and the toys to play with), we might expect play to be a central concern of humankind. But humans seem more concerned with making sacrifices on the altar of a better life than with actually living well. The Elements of Play The activity of play can involve every aspect of our being. We can physically exercise our muscles for the pleasurable sensation of moving gracefully. We can mentally attack a brainteaser for the pleasurable sensation of tuning up our brain. We can allow our emotions free rein and fall in love with someone we just met for the pleasurable sensations of being infatuated. We can let our spirits pour freely forth for the pleasurable sensations that praising God can bring us. Society seems to insist, however, that we have some motive beyond the enjoyment of the act itself. So we have Little Leagues to make physical exercise into work, and chess championships to make mental exercise into work, and going steady to make infatuation into work. Many, if not most, people have resigned themselves to such encumbrances and, thus, rarely manage to bo playful. It is little wonder then that sexual interaction, which can be physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual all at the same time, is particularly resistant to the idea of play. This is the most damnable of shames. Sex play can be the most rewarding sort of play there is. The Value Of Playful Sex Sex without appended purpose is pure sex. If "pure sex" strikes you as a derogatory or degrading activity, we suspect you've been listening too much to our self-appointed "moral authorities" and not enough to yourself. "Pure sex," we can hear a few of you exclaim, "do you mean merely the physical joining of genitalia?!" First, we do not mean "merely" anything. The joining of healthy genitals is an activity that produces very pleasurable sensations and is easily of as much absolute value as any other physical activity you could name. Crotch touching crotch needs no outside purpose or situation to justify it. Secondly, "pure sex" must include whatever emothins and thoghts are directly involved in the interaction. Humans (with the possibe exception of Scientific Materialists) aren't just physical beings. We simply aren't capable of performing any activity on purely physical plane. Unless you can fuck in a coma, you will find "merely genital sex" impossible. Playful sex, therefore, is sex for the joy of sex - the physical joy and/or the mental joy and/or the emotional joy, and/or the spiritual joy inherent in the act itself. Please note, that no one of these joys has any absolute value unto itself, and no objective superiority over any other joy. Each of us has his/her own purpose on the earth that we must work out in his/her own way. There are no "higher" pleasures and "baser" pleasures. There is only what is right for each individual at any given moment, And you are the only legitimate authority on what is right for you. Sometimes he emaotional pleasures of being united with another will have greater meaning for you, and sometimes the physical sensations will be the most important, and sometines sex won't be important at all.
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